Social Media Ruining Relationships Part 1

Proceeding on my research, many questions and answers have been discovered. One topic that has a strong tie to social media is relationships. I have saved this topic especially for my last two blogs because relationships are something that have significantly transmuted overtime due to the affect of social media. Many people are able to see and relate to this change. 

While doing research on the ever popular question, "what has social media changed in our lives?" I came upon many answers. However, one article that caught my eye is the post titled, "How Social Media is Ruining Relationships," this article mentions five facts which will be discussed throughout this blog as well as my next. 

The first major thing in the article is people lacking social skills. The post mentions, "people are more confident in having conversations when they're able to 'just slide into people's DMs or type out a quick Facebook message'." This generation feels it is less difficult to just text someone rather than doing it the old fashioned way and approaching them for a conversation face to face. This is due to the fact that people no longer have to worry about gestures and looks if they're talking to someone over a device. However, when it comes time to actually go out on a date, we forget how to interact. We sit there awkwardly knowing not what to talk about or how to act. We start wanting to be able to go back online to share our experiences. 

The second way social media is ruining relationship is that our expectations are becoming unrealistic. Many posts online are about "boyfriend goals" or "body goals." We then start thinking and we want the same things as other people out there in the world are getting. The author of the article continues with, "the easy access to stalking someone has caused a lot of insecurity and arguing among people in relationships." After seeing posts on social media about girls receiving flowers or chocolate when they're on their periods of just cute little notes from their boyfriends, we start to want things like that too. People tend to forget that no relationship is perfect. What goes on social media is only a small portion of what actually goes on in the lives of most people. The videos and pictures of sweet gestures make us believe that there is a such thing as a perfect relationship when there really isn't. We need to start appreciating and being thankful for what and whom we already have in our lives instead of wishing for more. 

There are still more reasons as to why interaction over the web is destroying relationships which will be continued on my next blog post. However, before I conclude this post, I want to mention why this article really stood out to me. Overall, it makes a great point on how relationships are changing and most people don't even notice it. Their wants become larger than their needs. People start wishing for things that they don't receive and if they don't get the things they want they become unhappy. This melancholy behavior towards their partner is the cause of the downfall of most relationships.

Jasmine. "How Social Media Is Ruining Relationships." Odyssey. 17 Sept. 2015. Web. 17 May 2016.